''I was bullied at school and all I want to is to be appreciated''.
I wasn't expecting this....
At Matt Smith Fitness everyone must have an initial consultation prior to embarking on a life changing mission with us.
Most consultations start and end the same;
You tell us what you want,
We decide if we can help you,
And a decision is made based on the above.
Pretty standard stuff.
But then I got a call from a Lady, let's call her Mrs Y.
''Hello'' I said as I answered the phone. (Obviously)
''Matt, I need your help''! Exclaimed the voice on the other end of the line.
The conversation continued..
''How may I be of service Mrs.....?''
''Y, call me Mrs Y''. (I thought; ''That's a coincidence'')
''How can I help you Mrs Y?''
''I'm looking to hire a Personal Trainer and I've heard you're the man to go to''.
;-)
''Brilliant, let's get you in for a consultation and we can take things from there''.
2 days later Mrs Y shows up for her consultation.
What happened next took me hugely by surprise..
(I won't bore you with all the minor details, just the stuff that's relevant to this blog post)
''So Mrs Y, let's discuss your goals and how I can help you''.
''Well my main goal is to lose weight''.
(Honestly, if I had a pound for every time I heard that sentence I would be living a lifestyle akin to Richard Branson)
''OK, Mrs Y, let me ask you this..... WHY?''
''Because I think I could do with losing a few pounds''.
I continued: ''WHY?''
''Because my clothes are starting to feel a bit tight''.
Now although Mrs Y's previous two answers seem like a genuine reasons, my experience told me she wasn't completely opening up.
That's when I flipped the whole consultation on its head...
''Do you know why I workout Mrs Y?''
''Because it's your job?''
''Nope, try again''.
''Because you enjoy it?''
''I certainly enjoy it, but that's not WHY I workout''.
''I give up Matt, WHY do you workout?''
''You see Mrs Y, I used to think I stood in front of a mirror 6 days a week flexing my biceps because I enjoyed it, or because I would be able to attract a member of the opposite sex if I had a six pack, or even because I wanted to get on the front cover of a magazine''.
''All of which are perfectly good reasons to workout, but the REAL reason came from something much deeper''. I remarked
******I've never ever admitted this to anyone, not even my family, so you're actually part of a WORLD EXCLUSIVE right now...*******
This is my WHY as I told it last week to a lady I'd only just met..
''I was bullied at school....
and all I want...
to is to be appreciated by people, that's my main WHY''.
The look on her face tells me she wasn't expecting me to say that.
To be honest, I can't believe I said that!
Mrs Y then proceeded to tell me her main WHY was because she sat on a chair at her son's birthday party, which then broke underneath her, while most of her son's friends parents where in the same room.
She had never felt so embarrassed in her life and that was WHY she decided to give me the call.
How does all this help you?
Well... You may have a superficial WHY,
But when you decide to do something about it,
When things get tough, either with the nutrition plan your trainer has put you on,
Or during a workout with your trainer when it gets hard,
That superficial WHY won't be strong enough to carry you through,
Like most people, you will probably quit.
UNLESS....
You find your real WHY.
You want to lose weight?
WHY?
You want a flat stomach?
WHY?
You want to increase your health?
WHY?
And whatever answers you're coming up with in your head probably are't your real WHY.
Go deeper!
Really think about your WHY.
It may be becuse you want to be appreciated by others,
It may be because you want to see your children, or even your grandchildren, grow up,
It may even be because a relationship has failed and instead of wanting to get in shape so you can make the ex jealous, it maybe because you want to attract Mr/Mrs Right..
Not in an aesthetic way, but because you will be leading a new life of increased health, increased fitness, increased energy and you want to find the same in a partner.
So here's a little exercise you can do to find your real WHY.
Shut yourself off from the rest of the world and just ask yourself...
''What is my WHY?''
Once you have that,
There will be no stopping you!
Tip: Write it down,
Keep it somewhere that's easily accessible,
And when you feel like quitting,
Just reach for your most powerful ammunition...
Your WHY!!
Matt 'find your why' Smith.
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